Why did they say it?

Why did they do it?

What made them tick?

You’ll never know their reality.

You might think you do, but you don’t.

You might have some insight into why they do what they do, but your insight is barely a sliver compared to their entire being.

Trying to figure out why a person behaved a certain way is almost impossible. Yes, if you have excellent intuition or even professional training, then you might get close to knowing, but in most cases you’re just guessing in the dark. And even worse, you’re making up a story in your own head about why they behaved the way they did.

Why is this important to know?

Because it’s human nature.

We need to know why something happened because it makes it easier to digest and come to terms with. People don’t like open loops or ambiguity, so when the answers aren’t clear, the mind starts filling in the blanks. And this is where things can get slippery because this is where the guessing starts.

The next time you find yourself attempting to speculate why a person behaved in a way that left you confused, offended, or upset, remind yourself that ultimately you’ll never really know the real answer. Just like they’ll never ever really know why you behave the way you do.

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